Hi, I am Kim
I've been in your shoes. As an employee, I worked in small offices to large international corporations. I co-owned two small businesses and a subsequent consulting business. I faced challenges perhaps similar to yours; the stress of managing people, demanding clients, unskilled managers, business development, and the list goes on.
On the personal side, there were the life events that shaped me emotionally, including a very life-changing divorce...more to come on that topic.
I came to understand how effective emotion management (NOT control) develops resilience, improves our decision-making and how we interact in every aspect of life.
This training is different from most other emotional intelligence courses. I teach a whole-body approach to emotion management. Why? Because managing emotions is more than managing our thoughts.Read More
The Most Important Education I Ever Received
My years of self-education spanning topics related to brain health, the mind, the importance of managing thoughts, physiology, psychology, the theory of constructed emotions, our interoceptive sense, and even quantum field theory.
Now I have made it my passionate mission to help others manage their emotions using the Emotion Chef Framework as the foundation.
How did I go from my consulting business implementing P2P systems to become a Chief Emotions Officer?
The End was the Beginning
I had a series of emotional earthquakes in my personal life, with the last one being an excruciating divorce, hitting a 9.0 on the Richter Scale. I lost my husband, two businesses, an employee who was also my friend (or believed she was), and what felt like my whole world.
At that time, this was my world.
My New Project — Me
During the course of my marriage, I was hired as a consultant in the real estate industry. Managing implementation projects was how I made a living after the divorce. I decided to make my personal life a "project” to implement "best practices" in my next relationship.
- How do I keep from getting hurt again or making mistakes in relationships?
- How do I develop better decision-making skills for selecting a future partner?
- How do I manage my emotions so as not to get the best of me?
In my personal life, my sister, Karri, has always said there is her sister Kim, and then there is "Corporate Kim.” Why? Because when there is a problem, I won’t stop until I find a solution or one doesn’t exist.
As I began the "Kim project,” I was focused on how I would manage my thoughts and decisions as I entered into my next romantic relationship. I created a Venn diagram in the shape of a heart to balance my personal relationships and wrote a book on how to use it for creating love/life balance.
What started as a project to help me enter a new romantic relationship turned into a much broader aspiration. I needed to go beyond bettering myself. The book was just the beginning.
Developing The Emotion Chef Framework
For years I had read studies, papers, books and listened to many lectures. It wasn't until I read How Emotions Are Made —The Secret Life of the Brain that the light bulb went off in a big way.
From this book, I learned about the theory of constructed emotions and how emotions are a whole-body experience. It pulled together all of the pieces that I had learned up to this point, including my Brain Health Coach certification training. I also learned about a little-known sense called interception. Interoception is the sense we all have that makes us aware of how we feel inside of our bodies. Interoceptive signals are used by the brain to let us know we need to eat or to use the restroom. They are also used to predict our emotions.
The brain uses past experiences to construct and predict our emotional responses. This is why emotions drive what we think more than our thoughts driving how we feel. This is why increasing our interoceptive awareness is KEY to our wellbeing.
It was then that I created the Emotion Chef Framework. If emotions are constructed, like a recipe, then they can be deconstructed and reconstructed. More importantly, we can create new "emotional recipes" to replace old, unhealthy emotional responses that don't serve us today. The other key component to the Framework is understanding the whole body in relation to our emotions.
My passion is to help tackle the emotional responses that prohibit physical and mental wellness for organizations and individuals alike.